Where to Now?

We all experience transitions in our lives. Some of us by choice, others by events beyond our control--like Katrina and Rita Hurricane victims. I like to think of Thanksgiving as the beginning of the transition period into the new year. I usually make a vow that I will not carry anything into the new year that has been a significant detriment in my life. Detriments include people, ways of thinking, habits involving health and finances, holding on to unrealistic dreams, and so on.

By starting now to address the detriment now, it´s possible to not only find solutions but even resolve the detriment before transitioning into the new year. That takes a lot of courage. One of the hurricane victims recently visited New Orleans. After returning he declared, "Salt Lake is my new home. I´m no longer holding on to returning to New Orleans. Maybe ever!"

The reality of his seeing the city and going back to a gainful life as impossible was all he needed. There was no future for him in New Orleans. For him, the detriment he faced was already obvious. For us, it may take some thought. Here are a few tips for your transition:

1) Find a quiet place, take a walk alone, or just reflect on the situation that brings the greatest anxiety or stress in your life.

2) What do you do (or not do) that keeps the situation in place?

3) What action or step would you have to take that would begin resolution--that may cause you fear?

4) What are the possible consequences, to you, by taking this step?

5) Give yourself time to think through if and how this transition is best accomplished for you and those involved.


Think on these answers for a few days. I´ll suggest further steps in the next blog.