Where to Now?

Since the beginning of our support group the ultimate objective has been to create a mind-set of self-sufficiency. At the last meeting we discussed the following exercise to drive this point home. You might use it either personally or with a group discussion. Have fun!

The Vacation of a Lifetime

Randall LaForche and his family were on a vacation when their home was demolished by a violent storm. When they returned, they were promised payment from their insurance company. They were told it would take some time to clear the paper work. In the meantime, they lived with relatives. As time passed, Randall complained and got angry at the insurance company. He did not secure a job because he was waiting for the money from the insurance company. His wife, Clara, didn't seek a job either since Randall told her everything would be fine. When his relatives asked Randall and his family to leave, the insurance company placed them in temporary housing.


1) The insurance company was responsible for Randall not getting a job.
Agree_____ Disagree_____

2) Randall was responsible and accountable for his family having to live in
temporary housing. Agree_____ Disagree ______

3) Clara bears no responsibility since Randall promised her that everything would
be fine. Agree_______ Disagree _______

4) Randall's relatives were responsible for his family having to live in
temporary housing. Agree ______ Disagree ______


Personal responsibility is the willingness to view yourself as the principal source of whatever happens in your life.

Personal accountability is the willingness to claim ownership for whatever happens in your life.

Personal empowerment is the willingness to take control of your life.

Although there are no wrong or right answers, there are consequences related to your choices. Your choices either create an empowered individual or one who is dependent on something or someone to make your life work. Try using this exercise with your support group or friends. As usual, I would love your feedback.

Bill