The third principle is to realize that you create your own reality.
However, this principle also applies to those events we claim we don't desire. In simple terms, what you get is what you really want--whether you admit it or not! Some years ago, I claimed that I wanted to create a public workshop series called Quality of Life. I prepared the materials, set a date, rented the space, and proceeded to take the word of others that they would ensure enrollment of participants. Guess what, we had only five people enroll. The event was cancelled and I lost deposit money.
My response, at that time, was to call my team together to figure out why we failed. The easy conversation would have been to discuss why we each didn't meet our commitment. I chose, instead, to discuss the fact that I had simply walked away from reality. The real test of my intention and commitment was my active, measurable participation in enrolling people, since I was most skilled in doing so. In addition, anyone who has tried to do this type of activity knows that single-enrollments are a "hard sell." Planning, materials, and even an enlightened facilitator are all relatively easy to come by. But to turn public seminars into a business proposition is another matter all together.
Based on the result I got , I began a whole different line of questioning. Perhaps, I didn't really want a successful seminar. What would be the consequences of success? Well the one dramatic consequence looming in the background was, "suppose I liked this seminar stuff more than my present employment as tenured professor of chemistry with 100 publications and an international reputation at the peak of my career!" The best way not to deal with this question was to fail at making the seminar a success, when, in fact, I was perfectly capable of success.
Now, I know this sounds a bit complicated. However, this is a shared experience, not a line of reasoning up for discussion. Because, when I addressed this consequence head on, I experienced a sense of professional freedom I had never had before. My success as a scientist and who I was at the time were One. Once I was able to separate "success as a scientist" and "who I was" as a person. I was finally free to be a success at anything I attempted, by following the ten principles I am sharing with you.
So, whether you believe it or not, your present reality is exactly what you want! Even if it sucks. Such a process might be exactly what you need to move through for your growth experience to rediscover "who you really are." Then you are free to create a different reality, limited only by your talents, potential, and self-motivation. This is not a"Rah Rah" line, but a conversation about the work that we all need to do to be destined for success.
You will discover that owning up to this principle prepares us for for the next most important one for mastering the human experience!
Again, if this stuff resonates with you, tell your friends and visit the bookstore for a few purchases. FYI: When I have attempted to make edits and repost, this blog site does not work. So, I apologize for the mistakes that persist. I'm a victim! (smile)
Animal Kingdom: A Diversity
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