What does it mean to you that you've not mastered this
major area of relationships? (This question is only to
be answered to yourself! I didn't either.) For me I
don't know if there is really a mastering of
relationships anyway - I guess it's more a learning. A
relationship is the most difficult challenge in life,
especially an intimate one. My point of view to what a
relationship is about has totally changed. There are
two people, they're finding each other. To love
somebody to me means: I'll do all I can to support and
to help him. To let him be the person he already is
(and this is the real difficult part). As soon as I'm
trying to change anything he does or he is - I'm
automatically changing the one I love - would I still
love him, when he's meeting my expectations, when I've
made him change his habits and behaviors? No - because
he's no longer the one I was falling in love with.
Love is not to be exprienced in good times it's more
important to experience love in bad times. And love is
needing truth and confidence as well as imperfection
and failures.
It's more important to give than to get. Listening is
more important than talking. Being here is more
important than going out. Sharing times together in
quietness and silence. Being one.
Am I too romantic or unrealistic?
The more years we can count the more value is our
life. Therefore conflict and gossip are things we
don't need anymore, that's wasting time, and we don't
have that much and we should'nt waste it. But
sometimes they are facing us - that's the time to show
the results we learned in our unique "workshop of
life".